BBJJ 5 MONTHS

Long overdue update in case you don't follow me on instagram.

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I really was in a writing mood like half an hour ago. Before I picked up my phone and spent 30 minutes on instagram again. It's really a horrible addiction but also such a major part of my life and work. But often it also just makes me procrastinate. Usually every time I have the urge to write there is like an outline in my head, and the flow and thoughts just pour out automatically. When I'm not in a writing mood everything just doesn't come together as naturally. I wanted to journal. Like just write about my day. But I'll cut it down to this bit.

Today when JJ was sleeping, I looked at her and thought, 'oh my god I'm so blessed and I love you so much'. I love love love the fact that I have my own family now. My boyfriend and me share the same values and morals, and we love each other and our baby. That makes everything so much easier. Not less tiring. No matter how much you love your baby, having a baby is still tiring, but also so so so rewarding. And I'm really really happy. Not happy with myself specifically, more about that in my next blog entry, but with how my life went so far in general. Business is going well, even though we are having a bad month right now, love life is all good, baby is healthy and yeah, I'm really happy in general. There are some things that upset me in my life but I will rant about those later. For now, I'm just feeling really blessed.

BBJJ: 2 1/2 Months

Baby JJ Julia Doan

There is not so much I have to say that I haven't said on social media already. I can't express how much I love this fucking cute baby and she's getting cuter and cuter by the day ! Even when she cries her mouth looks so cute and I wanna eat her up. Luckily she's a really easy-going baby and I hope it stays like that haha. She knows what she wants (lying on her back, being carried or lying in a baby bouncer) but for the most part she is really chill. I love you so much my daughter. Yeah, daughter, can you believe it ? I have a daughter ! IAM A MOTHER ! (I sometimes still can't believe it haha)

A family portrait

And modern gender roles

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Everyone does whatever is necessary and needs to be done. There are no gender roles in our household. Nam takes care of the baby and house work along with me. Both of us have a stable income and a mutual account and both of us provide the same amount of money each month. I want everything to be equal in our household. In my past relationships I always let the guys take care of everything financial and that often led to frictions. I'm a modern woman, earn my own living, why do I need a guy to take care of me like a princess when I don't even want to be a princess. That's what I thought after my last relationship and adapted to this one and it works perfectly well and everybody is happy. The same goes for tasks. There are tasks that Nam prefers to do like washing clothes or bringing out the trash and then there are tasks I'm more likely to do like vacuum cleaning and ironing. But in general there is no slacking off. When he has time to do the dishes, he will. When I have time to do it, I will. When JJ is crying and needs to be fed, whoever has more time at hand at that moment will do it. There is no arguing over tasks because both of us feel responsible. 

Floralpunk Christmas

My black and white christmas thing.

When I first started thinking about a concept for Floralpunk christmas this year, I really really really wanted to involve colours. But I was simply not capable haha. So the whole concept ended up black and white again. Our ribbon is similar to Net-a-Porter's (lower quality obviously), because that't the only nice one that is not all black that I could find. Only a couple days until christmas but still so many photos to post and edit.