And modern gender roles
Everyone does whatever is necessary and needs to be done. There are no gender roles in our household. Nam takes care of the baby and house work along with me. Both of us have a stable income and a mutual account and both of us provide the same amount of money each month. I want everything to be equal in our household. In my past relationships I always let the guys take care of everything financial and that often led to frictions. I'm a modern woman, earn my own living, why do I need a guy to take care of me like a princess when I don't even want to be a princess. That's what I thought after my last relationship and adapted to this one and it works perfectly well and everybody is happy. The same goes for tasks. There are tasks that Nam prefers to do like washing clothes or bringing out the trash and then there are tasks I'm more likely to do like vacuum cleaning and ironing. But in general there is no slacking off. When he has time to do the dishes, he will. When I have time to do it, I will. When JJ is crying and needs to be fed, whoever has more time at hand at that moment will do it. There is no arguing over tasks because both of us feel responsible.