MID AUGUST UPDATE

& pregnancy week 16 to 20 or so.

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PREGNANCY & LIFE UPDATES

Ok ever since I got to know that I'm pregnant, I decided for myself that I will change the way I live and work by all means. That I will not be the lazy procrastinator who is always kind of unhappy with herself anymore. I decided that I will do whatever it takes the next couple months for myself to be happy, so I don't end up as a depressive mother who blames her child for her miserable life. My life is not miserable but you know what I mean. And you know my struggles if you have been following me for long enough. When I was in Germany I picked up this book, it's called L'art de la Simplicite - How to Live More With Less. When I bought it, I thought it would be one similar to one of the Marie Kondo books I read before (which also influenced me a lot). But for me personally, I found this book, even though at times kind of too restricting in tone, so so so helpful. It gives you advise on almost all life aspects that you could possibly care about from eating to clothing and friends, and as the title says, how to live more with less. I personally found this book very enriching and highly recommend it. I read it within a few days and came back to Vietnam full of energy and spirit to tackle my problems. Now a few weeks later I still try to apply the principles in my life, I still try to keep my life, neat, tidy, organised and with as little clutter as possible. 


Besides that I have been working super hard on Floralpunk's upcoming collections because I will give birth end of December and I don't want to be overloaded with work when I'm like super super pregnant lol. We have some really cool products coming up and we will also open a new store in Hanoi next month ! Can't wait to share everythingggggg.

LAST DAY IN BERLIN

taken by my dad


Hat, Glasses, Jeans - Zara / Coat - Mango / Shoes - Nike Woven Mayfly / Bag - JW Anderson

And first time wearing a bag with gold hardware in ages. I just always thought that it looks weird with my skin tone. But apparently not too bad haha. Boyfriend bought this bag (totally unrequested, i swear), as "thank you for keeping my baby". Sounds kinda cheesy but it's a cute gesture. Today was my first time wearing it because of above stated reason. Back to Vietnam tomorrow and I don't feel like I want to leave yet : ( I regret that I only booked two weeks huhu. 

How we plan to give birth and where are we going to live ?

Pregnancy Week 15.

Ok you probably know almost nothing about my boyfriend who is going to be the father of my children. Yes, it was super fresh when we started out and we had been knowing each other a month when I received the news that I'm pregnant, but in that month we have talked so much about everything, including starting a family, that I just feel like he will be a great dad and always supportive partner. He is so so so kind and sweet, he is smart and we are so alike in so many ways, it was impossible not to fall in love. We met in Hanoi where he lives and we have been in a far distance relationship for like 5 months now. Other people would say this is crazy. We would say this is crazy if it wasn't happening to us. But we feel perfectly happy and fine with the situation. After my last two-year relationship and having read 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' and 'Emotional Agility', I feel like I have matured a lot. I spent 6 months just reflecting on myself and what I did wrong in my previous relationships and I'm sure it lies in my hands whether this one is about to last or not. Great books, read them if you can. 

Anyway, one big question mark we are standing in front of right now is, where to give birth ? He is going to support me no matter what decision I make, Germany or Vietnam. I guess he just wants me to be happy and I wouldn't want him to take that decision from me but I'm still not sure. I make it dependant on my mom. I know I will need her when I give birth. And probably the whole month after I give birth.

La Astoria / 383 Nguyen Duy Trinh, Binh Trung Tay ward, District 2

The second big question is, where are we going to live ? He's living in Hanoi with his parents right now, I'm sharing an apartment with two friends. The contract is going to run out by the end of the year and I will give birth end of this year. Are we going to buy an apartment or are we going to invest into a project and rent an apartment ? I know buying sounds big at 24, but shared by two it's so so so affordable in Saigon. I recommend you to look into the property market here and make investments haha. Can't go wrong with that. Saigon sure is going to develop the next 20 years. There is one project I'd really like to buy, it's the newest project by the SSG group which built Saigon Pearl, and it's called Binh An Pearl. I really like how close it is so close to Thao Dien in District 2, but also easily accessible from district one and it's also really close to the new city center in the Thu Thiem area (where there is nothing right now). But Lotte is going to contribute to a huge piece of land there, should be good haha. For renting, the only places I like are apartment in French-colonial buildings (but I don't want to live in District 1 because of Juju and traffic and everything), orrrr La Astoria ! La Astoria is a building in district 2. The far-end of district 2. In the middle of nowhere basically. But apartment-wise, it's seriously the only one that I like. I have this thing, I like high ceilings (hence I like old French apartments). And I looked through a lot of apartment buildings on the market right now, and they all look the same to me. La Astoria uses the same materials as other apartments as well, but it's a loft apartment which means it has super high ceilings ! It's the only one I could find. And it's super far but the rent is like only 400-450$ a month. So we could rent there and save on rent that goes on my uber bill haha. I also actually started to like the fact that it's a little far outside. Less traffic, less pollution, more walking space for Juju (dogs are not banned there yet according to a FB friend) and yeah. We are still considering all options but I think we will go for La Astoria (actually it's my decision, he could probably live under a rock and it'd be fine as long as we have each other lol) for renting and on the side invest into a new construction project (which will be finished in probably two years). 

I also freaked out about all the things to buy an invest for the baby, but then I figured I'll just take whatever I can get from Cookie's old stuff and friends. I know that babies grow super fast, I've seen it on Cookie, and it's a waste to invest so much into a super fancy wardrobe and in two weeks it won't fit anymore. Things I will invest in are a nice bed (I think I'll get this Sebra one), a very good air cleansing machine and regarding baby products, I will import everything from Germany. It's cheaper and I trust the quality. (Seriously, German products are cheaper than their counterparts available in Vietnam).

So yeah, that's an update on my life I guesss. I will try not to stress out anymore and be chill during my pregnancy. Nothing I can't handle anywayyyyy. 

BERLIN DAY 3: I saw Julia Junior's heartbeat and toes !!

The initial reason I came to Germany this time was to get myself checked out.
And it was a good decision.

I don't know whether it was just the hospital I went to for my first check up (Benh Vien Phu San Quoc Te on Bui Thi Xuan Street), or those specific doctors, but I felt treated like I came in for a running nose and not to confirm that I'm expecting my first child ever. It was super unfriendly and just not what I would expect from doctors who deal with people who are about to become mom's. In Germany announcing a pregnancy is still a big awwwww and congratulations thing. At that hospital I was treated like, you are 7.5 weeks pregnant, here is your ultrasound photo, go get the blood test, come back in two months. No explanations, nothing. And I paid like 200$ for everything. They also gave me medicine with no explanations, I googled them and decided not to take them. I don't trust medicine that has no google record except for random Vietnamese websites and the Korean pharmacy company website. So yeah, I went for my second check up here in Berlin at my gynaecologist and he was super kind and friendly, explained a billion things to me, told me what to take care of, what not, and it was just a much more pleasant experience. I might change to benh vien hanh phuc after I come back to Vietnam and if I don't like it there either I'll definitely do all my check ups in Germany and probably give birth in Germany. Let's see. Anyway, ultrasound !!! I was super worried about my baby because I've been having stomach pain and everything. I'm a pessimist, what if it died in my belly and i didn't know (ok too extreme lol). But what if ??? So I didn't even accept the fact that I will be a mother until I saw its heart beating on that ultrasound screen and when I saw the arms and legs and all the five toes, I was close to tears. What an experienceeeeee. Seriously. There's something inside of me man : )))) You know I'm not the girly girly girl who is like super optimistic, warm and always happy. I'm more a pessimist and prepared for the worst, but I am looking forward to Julia Juniorrrr. The only thing I'm worried about is stretch marks (no after long research, cremes barely help), and my bigger getting boobs. And breastfeeding and teared up nipples and all that. Sounds horrible to me. But I trust all the millions of women who have done this before me and say that everything is forgotten once you hold your baby in your arms for the first time haha.